Powerful, talented men are falling all around us. Falling stars who attracted wishes and dreams and burned up women’s hopes like delicate moth wings.
We are all more than a little uncomfortable. The tower of patriarchy is crumbling. Even the foundations are cracking. We are finding that the foundation we built our culture is not bedrock but landfill and all this #metoo revelations aggregate into an earthquake. But unlike a natural disaster, this man-made disaster will clear the field for the rise of a stronger culture for both men and women.
But this powerful movement is also being exploited.
False equivalencies flow from partisan mouths. A proposition is not the same as an assault. Consensual sex with an adult is not the same as pedophilia. Harassment is not the same as rape. Even harassment has levels. I know these things from my own life experience but these are not just personal opinions. The legal and criminal codes of our country define what is a civil violation and what is criminal.
Our legal system has the tools to address harassment, rape and child abuse. Our workplaces have the policies. We need to remove the cultural and social obstacles that mute the victims while preserving due process.
We need to complete fair investigations on the accused. The court of public opinion just buries the truth in propaganda and partisanship.
I want investigations into the allegations against franken, trump and others and then fair judgement and commensurate consequences.
It looks like we are not ready for that kind of balanced action. We are in full disaster mode. The spectacle and passions drive us.
Today I’m trying to steady the ground in my own small way.